Most of our posts are oriented toward brides, but this one is applicable to grooms as well. Getting married is a huge life-altering decision. Huge life-altering decisions are scary to make, so it's natural to be nervous in the days leading up to your wedding--few people aren't. You'll probably ask yourself if you're doing the right thing a thousand times, and you may begin to drive yourself crazy. In most cases, you're just experiencing "the jitters". In a few cases, someone may decide they are not making the right decision for themself, and decide not to go through with the ceremony. This decision will lead to surprise, shock and probably some hurt feelings. To assuage their own feelings of conflict, the one who cancels may seek seclusion to "sort it all out". That's natural too, but remember the world doesn't stop when you're not participating in it. It's important to let someone know you're OK. Try not to do things that make your mother think you'll be dredged from the bottom of a river. That's tough on moms. Also, your fiancee' will be shocked, embarassed, and heartbroken. He or she may react to you with anger to alleviate their feelings. Be prepared for that. Eventually, you'll have to see your friends and family again.
Time will tell how this current story will play out. Will the bride be ordered to compensate the police for seach expenses? This has apparently happened in other similar instances. Will criminal charges be brought for initially reporting a kidnap? Will the couple eventually get married?
Come what may in your wedding planning, it's important to think through your feelings, and be open and honest with your loved ones. It may help to talk to someone you trust--perhaps your mother, father, a sibling, or your best man/maid of honor--about how you're feeling. Speaking out loud, even to a pet, is a surprisingly effective way to clarify your thoughts and feelings.
A wedding is a ceremony that marks the uniting of two lives as one, but each one has to be making the best decision for their own self. We can't reiterate enough that honesty and openness are key. Feelings will be hurt--there's no way to avoid that. But being true to yourself and honest with those around you is of paramount importance, and not just when your planning your wedding.